I love board games. They are an excellent way to spend time with family and friends while having a lot of fun. But did you know that one board game in particular can help you improve your life almost instantly? It did for me, and I’m about to share with you how it did that.
I’m talking about the game “Password.” Did you ever play it? It’s a fun game from the ’60s or ’70s in which the players try to guess a “secret” word based on minimal clues given by their opponents or by someone from their team. The secret word is printed on a special card and is “encoded” by red and white squiggles that make the word appear invisible to the naked eye; however, when looked at through the special decoder glasses that are included in the game, the word is “magically” revealed.
After writing my post yesterday about the principle which states that we tend to experience more of what we focus on, I suddenly realized the striking similarities between this board game and the game of life; our life.
Have you ever met or been around a person whose very aura feels negative to you? Someone who is constantly complaining or whining about how bad things are in his or her life? People like these are generally unpleasant to be around because their attitude about life just seems to bring us down.
On the other hand, have you been around people who are the complete opposite? These are people whose very presence just seems to brighten our day and make us feel better. People in this category seem energetic and full of life and their attitude about life is always positive and uplifting. You can’t help but smile in their presence.
What is the difference between these two types of people? Some may claim that this was probably due to the conditions of their upbringing or how they were raised. But that’s unlikely. If the difference were due to their upbringing, siblings who were brought up in the same household would all have similar attitudes towards life and therefore similar auras; yet I know of several examples of such siblings who have grown up to have totally different attitudes and auras. A classic metaphor used to illustrate this phenomena is one about two siblings who were raised in the same household, yet one grew up to be a successful businessman while the other grew up to be a drunk bum.
When the drunk bum was asked about the reason behind his failure, he stated, “I come from a broken home and had a terrible childhood; as a result, my life has been filled with one misfortune after another. This weakened me and broke my spirit, and that’s why I am where I am today.” When the successful businessman was asked about the reason behind his success, he replied, “I come from a broken home and had a terrible childhood; as a result, my life has been filled with one challenge after another; that made me stronger and more determined to succeed, and that’s why I am where I am today.”
As you can see, the two brothers had the exact same upbringing and were exposed to the same circumstances, yet they both attributed the reason behind their success or failure to the same thing. What does this reveal to us? To me, this story reveals that our individual life experiences are never based on our conditions or circumstances, but rather on the attitude towards them and the meaning that we assign to them.
You see, I believe that we all walk through life wearing permanent invisible decoder glasses just like the ones that are used in the board game, and all the experiences we encounter in our lifetime are those that we pick up or are able to read based on the lens that our glasses have. This lens acts as a filter, and out of everything that life has to offer, we are only able to pick up or attract those experiences which match our filter. That’s where our attention will be focused, and that is all that we’ll see.
I find this to be fascinating, because it means that at any given moment we have the power to change our life experience and remove what we don’t want to see simply by changing the lens in our decoder glasses, therefore shifting our focus to what we do want to see.
This is great news, because it means that while I may not have control over everything that happens in the world, I do have control over what I see and how I see it, and what I do with the information I receive. Read again the metaphor of the two brothers and see if what I stated makes sense in their case. The two brothers were exposed to the same situation and circumstances, but one of them was wearing decoder glasses that allowed him to see his life experiences as negative, and all he ever saw was the misfortunes that plagued his life, and eventually led him to ruin. The other brother was wearing decoder glasses that allowed him to see the same life experiences as challenges that propelled him higher and higher in his path of success; all he saw were the positive qualities that each of those experiences helped him to develop, and which eventually led him to his great success.
The thing I’d like you to take away from today’s post is this: that which you consider good and that which you consider bad are both readily available to you everywhere. There is an abundance of both types of experiences all around you. What you actually see and what you end up incorporating into your life experience will depend on the filter that you choose to look at the world with. You have that decision each and every day, every second of your life.
So I will close today by inviting you to analyze the lens of your decoder glasses. Remember, we all are wearing these glasses, the only difference is the lens or filter that they have. So I invite you to take some time to really ponder on this and determine if the lens that you’re wearing is serving you or if it’s holding you back from reaching your highest potential. If you discover that you are wearing a lens that serves you, congratulations! Continue doing what you’re doing. If not, what are you waiting for? Replace your lens immediately and begin your journey to a better, richer, more rewarding life today.
I’d love to hear from you!