Do you have any unfulfilled dreams or desires? Most people do; in fact, I’ll even venture out to say that everyone does. The human race has desires as one of its characteristics. It comes with the territory; if you’re human, you have desires. In a previous blog I shared with you my understanding of the underlying desire behind the desire for any physical or tangible thing. Today I’m going to talk about those physical, tangible things that we all want and wish to have, but for some reason we have been unable to achieve.
Regardless of our gender, race, nationality or age, we all have a desire to improve our physical body, our financial condition, gain more confidence, more courage, improve our relationships, increase our self-esteem, and the list goes on. At any point in time we have a plethora of desires that we want to have fulfilled, some of which have been with us for a very long time, and their fulfillment has been eluding us just as long.
The new age movement has been telling us for a long time now that through the power of our thoughts we create our own reality. We have been told that we can “think and grow rich” or “think and grow slim”; we have been told that “thoughts become things” and that we can get whatever we want through the use of positive affirmations, dream boards, journals, movie minds, visualization etc.
More recently we have been told that thoughts alone are not enough, though. So we were instructed to incorporate our emotions in the process. We were told that in order to manifest our desires we must not only “think” but we must also “feel” these things into manifestation. We were told that when we use positive affirmations, dream boards, journals, visualization, we must include the feeling of already having those things; a task which has proved to be easier said than done for most folks, including me.
Even more recently we were told that the real secret to manifesting of our desires is to use those same manifestation tools incorporating both thought and feeling to feel as if we are already in possession of the thing we want, but use them so effectively that we suddenly lose the need or want for it. And that’s – we’re told – when the physical manifestations will come.
There is a lot of value and wisdom in all of those teachings. Each of those methods definitely adds a piece to the manifestation puzzle, but does not quite complete it. Something still seems to be missing, because many people who put these teachings in practice and follow those instructions to the letter still complain of not manifesting their desires. While most people are able to achieve some level of success with these methods, they don’t succeed in manifesting their biggest and greatest desires.
In my search for the missing piece to this puzzle I came across the works of Greg Kuhn widely known as the Law of Attraction Science Guy and author of the “Why Quantum Physicists” series. Greg assures us that there is, in fact, something missing from the commonly known approaches to manifestation, and this missing piece revolves around the subject of BELIEFS.
Greg explains that while our thoughts, words, and feelings do play a part in the manifestation process, it is our beliefs that are ultimately responsible for what we experience in our reality; in other words, it is our beliefs that actually determine whether our manifestations will occur or not.
Our belief system resides in the subconscious mind, and it’s a mechanism which is uniquely ours. Each person has his or her own set of beliefs. While there are some beliefs that we can say are “commonly shared” by some or many people, still each person has his or her own individual version and interpretation of those beliefs.
As we discussed in a previous post, our belief system is based on history and it’s composed of those programs which got past our conscious mind (with or without our awareness). The subconscious mind, being the loyal friend that it is, has as one of its primary functions to protect us and prevent us from suffering or feel like we’re going crazy.
At every moment of our lives and in every single situation we encounter, our subconscious mind is at work, gathering data and presenting it to us to support the beliefs that we’ve held. For instance, if a woman believes that all men cheat on their wives, her subconscious mind will be constantly at work gathering evidence from past experiences, stories, news, etc. in support of that belief. It will also tweak her present awareness in such a way that she will come across plenty of evidence in her everyday life to support that belief. This is not to say that there will literally be more of it, period; rather, it is to say that out of the sea of evidence that includes examples of both, men who are loyal and men who are disloyal to their wives, all she will see, notice, and experience are the disloyal ones. In other words, there will be more of it in her individual current reality and experience.
If we’re presented with a new belief or idea, our subconscious mind quickly searches for evidence in our belief archives to support it. If it finds it (if the new belief or idea is in agreement with what we believed in the past), it will accept it and provide us with evidence of it. If no such evidence is found, it will flat out reject the idea and build an iron wall in front of it to ensure that it doesn’t get through. It works with unbelievable speed; to the point where the effect is practically instantaneous, even without the conscious mind’s awareness of what just happened. See how good a friend the subconscious mind is to us. It is always on our side allowing us to see and experience only that which we believe to be true. Now this is awesome if the beliefs that we have serve us, but if they don’t, it can set us up for self-sabotage.
Let’s bring this back to our desires now. I’m sure we can now better understand why it is that the tangible things that we’ve desired for years have eluded us. If the acquiring of those things is not in alignment with our subconscious beliefs, there is just no way that they will come to pass. Like a good friend who covers our eyes so that we don’t see something on the side of the road that we believe will cause us any negative emotion, so does the subconscious mind protect us from experiencing those things which go against our beliefs and make us feel like we’re crazy or deluded.
Let’s revisit the example of a belief that may be held by a woman:
Belief: All men are cheaters
Sea of evidence: There are both loyal and disloyal men
Subconscious response: she believes all men are cheaters, and my job is to prove her right; if I let her see that many men are not cheaters she will think she’s deluded and possibly crazy, therefore I will only let her see evidence of what she believes.
Result: news, reports, stories, of men who cheated on their wives; possibly even marrying a man who will eventually cheat on her.
I hope you can now see the ramifications of this. These beliefs, if left unattended, become self-fulfilling prophesies and they will produce a series of undesirable results even though we remain consciously unaware of the reason behind it. Try as we might, we will be unable to achieve new and lasting results so long as those beliefs remain in place, so it behooves us to take a good look at the beliefs that we hold in any area of our lives where we’re not experiencing the tangible manifestations we desire and ask ourselves this most important question: Does this belief serve me?
If the answer is no, then it’s time to let that belief go and replace it with one that will serve us and help us to manifest those desires. In a future post I will talk about how to go about releasing or replacing those beliefs, so make sure you follow me or sign up to receive updates via email.
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To your success!
JC
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